The 2nd edition of our holiday e-book, Unwrapping the Gift of Stepfamily Peace, is out and for the next few weeks I want to include some excerpts to help you thrive, not just survive, the holiday season.
Today I start with the introduction to give you an idea why Heather Hetchler and I wrote the book:
“When we became stepparents we never imagined the roller coaster of emotions we would ride. We willingly said “I do” to men with children, while bringing our own kids into the mix.
Like you, we pledged our hearts and our lives to our spouses, agreeing to partner with them to parent our children. Together, we have strived to build a family based on love, faith, and commitment.
As stepparents, we face many challenges in our role and we realize the holidays can be an especially difficult time. While the season offers opportunity to bond and grow closer as a family, there is ample opportunity for hurt and disappointment.
Our book was written for every stepparent who dreams of a peace-filled holiday season. You are not alone on this journey.”
If you feel alone on your journey, reach out to other stepparents. There are a variety of online groups that offer encouragement and support. (But be careful, there are some that offer only negative support). Here are a few that I like:
Twitter: #TwitterStepmoms – a group of stepmoms seeking to encourage one another through uplifting posts
Facebook: Buckeye BonusMom: A group moderated by Lisa Teal Webb, stepmom to 3, who focuses on the positive side of stepparenting
Facebook: StepparentingSuccess: A group Heather and I started on FB to encourage stepparents with helpful tidbits
Stepmom Magazine: helpful articles from other stepmoms living in the trenches, published monthly.
The holiday season is in full swing. How are you doing so far? I hope you’ll download our e-book to help you and your family unwrap the gift of stepfamily peace through the flurry of the holidays.
What tips can you offer that help you through the holiday season as a stepparent? I would love to hear them.